We’re in a teaching series called, Wildfire—When Anger Burns Out of Control. When I received my topic for the week, I wanted to pay a visit to the person who assigns them and have a few words! He knows me pretty well! All kidding aside, I welcome the opportunity to spend some time this week talking about jealousy.
Many years ago, under the direction of a spiritual coach, I took an assessment that, among many other things, revealed a prevailing, non-resourceful characteristic in my life. More specifically, of all the sins (and there are many) I’m capable of committing, I’m naturally very envious. Learning this truth was stunning. For as long as I can remember, I’ve looked at life primarily in the context of what is missing. I became an expert at comparing myself to others with the constant belief that things just came more easily for them. How can they afford that house? Why did they get to take that vacation? Why can’t I have a car like that? How did they get so lucky?
And it went deeper. The assessment correctly pointed out that I struggled to believe anyone could grasp how unique my challenges and needs were. No one can understand the way I feel! I would spend considerable time yearning for something outside of myself to fill the empty void. This is what fueled the jealousy. It was all so exhausting.
Read again today’s scripture, Proverbs 14:30, above. There’s some strong language about what avoiding this topic can do to us. So let’s spend some time this week talking about jealousy and its antidotes.
When did you last notice a feeling of envy, jealousy, or emptiness attributed to what you think is missing? A quick and effective counter is thinking about how you’ve already been blessed. You’ll find the blessings outnumber the wants.