“I can quit anytime.” Have you ever said—or even thought—those words when talking about a potentially life-controlling habit? It implies that a little effort can leave any problem behind. Maybe we even try to convince ourselves and others, “It’s not really a problem.”
But addiction is tricky. And the devil is mean. Because often, even when a person’s life is clearly in a downward spiral, even as lives are being shattered around them, denial keeps a false peace in the mind of the addict at the epicenter of the demolition.
You know what? It’s the same with any life-controlling habit, any addiction: Real change is in store when we take that first step to becoming healed: Admitting we are powerless to manage our own lives. We truly need help from God—and others—to see any kind of change in the life-controlling habit by which we’ve found ourselves ensnared.
When it comes to lust and sexuality, addiction creeps into the mix. Lust includes but is not limited to the feelings and pleasure associated with sex itself. The “addict” may struggle with compulsions like control, selfishness, codependency, anger issues—all the “junk” that gets tangled up in the problem. It’s easy to lose sight of the original struggle, to miss the place we need God’s help.
Sexual addiction can hide away beneath the surface, ready to pounce. The trigger might be that same person, that same time of night, that same stop on the business trip, that same website, that same… fill in the blank. If we’re sick, we won’t suddenly, accidentally become healthy. We need healing if we’re going to make healthy choices. Confide in a trusted friend. Talk with a counselor. Make the call. Attend the meeting. Find accountability.
You’re not alone. Not by any stretch. We all need help. Take the first step today to invest in your freedom and healing: Ask God for help and then ask a trusted person to walk the journey with you.
Don’t be afraid. God sees your struggle. It’s not hidden. God knows we need Him. Deep down we know we need Him, too. If we need help, all we have to do is ask for it. Google Celebrate Recovery, Sexaholics Anonymous, or a Sexual Integrity Group. Set up a meeting with a pastor or trusted friend who will listen and pray. Or visit this link to connect with a professional counselor.