Slaying Dragons: Lust — Tuesday
1 Corinthians 10:12
Don’t be so naive and self-confident. You’re not exempt. (MSG)
We’re talking this week about lust, and I’ll begin with a true story I once shared from stage, but bears repeating. On the heels of her boyfriend’s suicide, a young woman came to my office one summer evening; it was late, and I was still working. I knew her and her family well; she was a sensitive, attractive young woman who was really struggling. I was exhausted, but listened intently as she shared her considerable pain for more than an hour, and then asked me to pray for her.
I agreed and took her hands in mine (something I normally don’t do) and started to pray. About six seconds into that prayer, the Holy Spirit started speaking to me. “Why are you holding her hands, Gary? Is it because she’s grieving, or because she’s pretty?” As I continued to pray, He spoke some other things to my heart; to this day, that’s the most uncomfortable prayer time I’ve ever experienced.
Later, I told God I was sorry and confessed that I had been attracted to her. The next morning, I sat down and wrote out ten questions that I would henceforth ask myself after encounters with the opposite sex.
Am I attracted to her: yes or no?
Have I flirted with her in any way: yes or no?
Do I look forward to meetings with her?
Do I ever daydream about her or fantasize about her?
Do I mention her frequently in conversations with others?
Am I defensive if someone suggests I talk with her too much?
Do I unnecessarily prolong our conversations?
If my wife could listen in (or view my social media interactions with her), would she be okay with what is said?
If my kids could listen in, would they say I’m being faithful to their mother?
If I touch this person, albeit a quick hug or squeeze of the arm, is any part of that touch for my own gratification?
Lust is insidious, my friend; it demands keen awareness and personal honesty. Why? because once you begin to deceive yourself, all other deception gets easier.
Tuesday’s Reflection
Moral failures are epidemic; lust is the key culprit. We have to reel it in… because the only person who can keep you from ruining your life is you. Brutal honesty is critically important. Tiny indulgences and small confidences mustn’t be tolerated. There’s just too much at stake. Use these ten questions to take a personal inventory and see where you stand. Do it now.
